Step one – Acceptance
Start by accepting your situation, don’t fight it but yield to it and start working out how to work with it. The more we fight and resist, the more we refuse to change our lives, to give into pain, the louder our bodies scream at us to pay attention.
Acceptance is allowing yourself to feel the fear, the anger and the grief that come hand in hand with pain. Acknowledging each of these things is the first step on the road to confronting and changing them.
Acceptance is letting go of ideals and expectations, of capabilities, of the way things were or how we hoped they would be. This is what makes acceptance so hard but the end product is less pain, less distress, better coping and a better life.
Step two – Choose to be a survivor
Once you’ve faced up to how profoundly crap this is, you’re going to have to make a decision. When you tell the story of your life, are you going to be a victim or a survivor?
Hopefully once you’ve acknowledged and sat with the sadness and loss that so often accompanies pain, you’ll find a deep and driving desire to change it. Which is great – you’re going to need that!
So step three… Forgive yourself
Start forgiving yourself now, for the cancelled plans, for letting down your kids, your partner, your team. It’s going to happen and you’re going to have to get used to it for a while. So are they.
To be strong enough to beat chronic pain, we have to be strong enough to be vulnerable, strong enough to concede where we need to.
Step four – Know what you’re up against
Start by learning about pain, because if you’ve had pain for more than a few months, the pain is no longer just a symptom but a whole different problem in its own right.
It now involves your hormones, your immune system and your gut as well as your nervous system; all those funky things you’re feeling (the fatigue, the mental fog, the pain you’re getting everywhere else now), they aren’t in your head, they’re real! The physical, psychological and neurological factors that are working to keep you in pain, they’ll all need to be addressed.
A good, up to date GP, Osteopath or Physiotherapist should be able to help you better understand your pain but the first and most important thing to understand is that there are heaps of things that affect your pain that have nothing to do with your injuries. These ‘things’ are different for everyone and working them out can give you a heap of extra tools to start turning the tide.
Step five – Build a team
A good multi-disciplinary team will work together not just along side each other.
You’re going to need;
– A good GP (and a long appointment). A good GP is one you can have an open chat with, who you feel heard by and whom you’re prepared to listen to. If that’s not your current GP, change. Having trust and open communication is not negotiable.
– An Osteopath or a Physiotherapist with a balanced approach of active and passive treatment strategies. Active strategies include exercise and activity prescription and passive strategies are the hands on treatments. These strategies will need to focus on improving your functional capacity, improving the pain itself comes second to this – you need to get your ducks in the right order so to speak. You also want someone who can help you set realistic goals and stage a recovery plan for you. They will redefine success for each stage of your plan so that you can see progress, it’s pretty hard to keep the faith on such a long road otherwise.
You may also benefit from;
– A Clinical or health psychologist to listen to you when even you are sick of hearing yourself talk about your pain. They can help you deal with the impact pain has had upon your life and help you develop strategies for dealing with the cognitive and emotional factors that contribute to your pain. They can help you get passed step one.
– A Specialist Pain Physician, these guys are the big guns. They can help you manage a medication and/or intervention plan that is effective. Drugs can be brilliant when they are used in the right patient at the right time so avoiding them is generally not ideal, what’s ideal is working through your concerns with your physician so that you can have your questions answered and arrive at a plan that suits you. If you’re still not sure, get a second opinion, and a third if need be. If at that point you’re still unwilling to follow the advice of the experts because it doesn’t agree with your ideals, go back and read step one again. None of this is ideal and the bottom line is that biologically, pain promotes pain.
Step six – Make time and space for recovery
Overcoming pain is no small feat, it takes a whole lot of time and commitment. Each person on the list above is going to ask you to do things, and each of them is going to take time. When it all seems too much, remember Pain has a way of taking a lot more than an hour or two a day.
Make time for the key pillars of health:
Movement – even 15-20 minutes a day can have a huge impact on a stressed out and overly sensitive nervous system. It doesn’t have to be vigorous or heavy, it doesn’t have to be sweaty but it does have to be consistent.
Eat well and sleep well – food and sleep tend to fall to the bottom of the heap when we live hectic lives in a hyper connected world, but these are two of the key areas we need to focus on to restore balance to a distorted immune and endocrine (hormone) system. These guys are a huge part of your pain volume control, poor sleep and a poor diet will leave your dial cranked up to max.
Disconnect from devices and stress, and reconnect with yourself, with loved ones and with nature. Find things that help you disconnect from your pain and reconnect with the person you were before you had pain. Spend time outdoors, get some sun on your skin and give your body the best chance of resetting your body clock.
Step seven –
Last but not least, just keep putting one foot in front of the other. These changes will eventually have a snowball like effect but it’s always slow to start. The path to recovery is never straight, there will be relapses and recurrences but there will also be wins. Celebrate them, they won’t have come easily and you will have earned them.
Osteopathic intervention for chronic pain has a focus on empowering people to manage their conditions so if you’ve had enough of pain and want some help in finding your way back to a better life, give us a call today on 03 8370 3044. Alternatively, book an appointment with Dr Della Buttigieg, our Senior Osteopath, who has a special interest in helping people living with chronic pain.